Black Girls Matter

Yesterday while we were out running errands we stopped in WalMart to pick up a Barbie for Savannah's friend who will be celebrating her birthday this weekend. Once we arrived at the Barbie aisle I quickly began scanning the merchandise for the newly released Super Princess Power Barbie.

After finding her I looked to the left and right (as black moms do to find the doll with a little melanin) to find that either I was looking in the wrong place (giving the benefit of the doubt), or perhaps Super Power Barbie was only released in the "blond version" as my daughter put it.

This hit me pretty hard. Here I am in the Barbie aisle of a major retailer in a major US city standing in front of a display of dolls that look nothing like this country or the city that I live in. I was equally as frustrated at the lack of hispanic dolls. After all, we do live in San Antonio where the number of Hispanic little girls far out weighs the number of African American girls.

So, is this our reality? I talked to a few friends about my disappointment yesterday. We agreed that reaching out to the company about this issue would probably fall on deaf ears but that it wouldn't hurt to try. I decided that tweeting the company to ask for a release date of an African American Super Power Barbie would be a nice way of saying, "When is black Super Power Barbie coming out?". Crickets. I haven't heard anything back from them. Not yet anyway.

I hesitated to blog about our experience yesterday because I didn't want to sound like another black woman bringing up race and the young black girl's struggle to feel beautiful.

But then I woke up this morning to see Guiliana Rancic's comments on Zendaya's faux locs she wore to the Oscars...



Zendaya looked beautiful. Gorgeous. Radiant. The fact that Guiliana made that comment doesn't surprise me at all. It just further confirms why yesterday on the Barbie aisle was so important. People in the media will continue to make jokes at the expense of a young black girl's self-esteem. Because of this, I must be diligent in my efforts as a mother to constantly surround my daughter with positive images and symbols of black beauty. Sadly, Super Power Barbie isn't one of them.

From now on I have chosen not to support any doll that does not represent the beauty that is black. We had a tough family conversation last night about how important it is for Savannah to see herself in the dolls that she plays with. Children do not see color and that's a good thing. However, as a Mom who wants my daughter to understand at an early age that she is important enough to have dolls made that look like her, I will no longer be purchasing dolls that do not.

If Guiliana Rancic can get on a  major television network and make horrible comments about a young girl then I can make the decision to no longer give my money to companies that do not think enough of my daughter to give her a Super Power or career. Because let's face it, Barbie doesn't always give us jobs either.

All little girls are super. Zendaya's hair was lovely. Stand up for something and let your daughter's see you embracing their culture and who they are. They look to us first. If we are okay with settling they will be to. I have never been one to settle for anything and I do not plan to start now.

What are your thoughts on Guiliana's comments on Fashion Police? How do you approach the topic of race at home?

31 Before 32: Bible Study & Journals

Remember my post about 31 things I wanted to do before turning 32? Well, I'm checking things off the list. I had an Amazon gift card to use and I decided to get my bible study resources and a journal with it.

It took me a while to decide on which books I wanted to use. After visiting the Family Christian store in my neighborhood I decided that Amazon would probably have a bigger selection of workbooks. I was wrong. After I purchased my items I ended up finding a christian bookstore website that had tons of stuff. Tons. I'll buy from them the next time I'm ready to get more resources.

I'm always shocked when Amazon doesn't have something or doesn't have a wide selection of something. Anyway. Here are the books that I got.

I really love how the devotional guide is broken down by the week and also by the day. The workbook I chose was the best that I found while I was looking. I wish the devotional book I chose had a workbook. This workbook is pretty good, it just doesn't follow the devotional, which is what I wanted. 

The Husband Project is a book that caught my eye while I was in the Family Christian store. I'm not going to say much about it because my husband reads my blog. Look it up.

 Journaling was also a part of my 31 before 32. I ordered the little red journal through Amazon. It's so small. I'm not sure if I like the size of it but I am a fan of the red leather so maybe I'll keep this one in my purse for fleeting thoughts while I'm on the go.

The silver and gold journal is one I found while strolling the aisles of WalMart. There were so many pretty covers. I went with this one because it was the most grown up looking journal out of all of them.

I've been reading Andy Cohen's diary from 2014 and it has inspired me to write my journal in that way. Instead of making it a deep journal about my feelings I think I'll write about the surface stuff that I'll want to remember years from now. Do I really want to remember every single emotion from this year? No. But I do want to remember what happened to encourage that emotion. 

So. I'm checking these two things off m'list! On second thought, I'll check the journals off my list. I'll check the bible study off when I'm done with it next year. :-) (blogs should have emoji)

Have you checked anything off of your list for 2015 yet?

#OurProject52: Love/Heart

I am not a big Valentine's Day person. My husband normally tries to sneak in a gift for me during my birthday celebration the week before. This year was no different. I originally wanted to photo what he got me this year. I procrastinated too much and my roses died. The kids have been playing with my bear and his neck is literally about to fall off. Poor fella.

Yesterday after school Savannah was eating one of the many heart shaped lollipops she received. It looked like the perfect photo op so I reached for my iPhone.

I am loving the camera on this thing. Between how awesome the camera is and the amazing photo apps I learned about during an instagram class my pics have been getting better. Or at least I think they have. 

Are you a big Valentine's Day person?

Lent 2015

This year, for the first time, I plan to give up something for Lent. As I was thinking about the Lent season and the upcoming Easter season (it's already Easter at the Dollar Tree btw) I thought about where we were this time last year.

This time last year we had a church that we attended regularly and  I felt more on track with my journey as a Christian. Somewhere between Little Mike's nap time crying spells and Big Mike's new work schedule we fell off track. I started watching church online or on tv. Neither one of those church going options is really for me.

I like being in an actual church. Now that Little Mike has been weaned from nursing and has almost all of his teeth I'm looking forward to making it through a service without getting tapped by an usher. All of that is what brings me to where I am now. I want to "give up" something and really focus on setting time aside to read, listen and connect with God.

For this Lent season I'll be giving up wine and soda. That's going to be rough. I am a recovering soda addict and I love wine so it will probably be a tough forty days. Also, in the spirit of getting aligned I am going to "take up" home organization. I really need to find an organization system for toys and all the clutter that collects at the front door. Our desk could use a little love too. 

By Easter I expect to be less bloated and more organized. Are you giving up or taking up anything for Lent this year?

Weekend Recap: 2/17/2015

Nothing too much to say about this weekend. I attempted to rest and failed. On Monday we took Little Mike to the barbershop for his first visit. Our plan was to take him so that he could get use to the barbershop and meet his barber.

He had a blast running around. The barbershop wasn't open so it was a great time to take him. We sat him up in the chair and he seemed okay. Once he heard the clippers he began to cry. I decided to play some his favorite songs on my phone and that seemed to settle him down.


Since he did so well we decided to go ahead and get his haircut. He looks like a big boy now! I'm missing his hair and can't wait for it to grow back. He'll get it cut again but I don't think it'll be this low.

This was pretty much the highlight of my weekend. We did a little shopping and I'm expecting somethings in the mail soon. I'm thinking of sharing that haul with you on YouTube, we'll see. My computer issues will hopefully be resolved by then. 
I can't save one. more. thing. to this hard drive, sigh.
And the blogging app I use on my phone is distorting my photos, double sigh.

How was your weekend?

Thought Bubbles...

It is Valentine's Day...

For the past week or so I have been super sleepy. Unusually drowsy...

Which is weird because I have been getting more sleep than I have in twenty months...

I didn't watch the Grammy's but I heard Bey's album lost Album of the Year. Tragic...

I'm still riding to that album like its brand new...

My bestie introduced me to highlighter powder and I'm loving it...

I recommend MAC's Global Glow or Gold Deposit. YouTube it...

Oh. And that Mary Kay skincare routine has my skin looking real nice...

Now that my braids have gotten a bit older I am loving them...


My laundry situation is out of control. I'm constantly washing, drying & folding...
Soccer practice starts this week. I'm kind of excited and kind of already over the thought of having something extra to be prepared for...
Savannah will be on a new team this season. I'm actually going to miss the parents on her old team...
Why does it take forever for the oven to preheat when you're in a rush...
My Mom is the best...
I found a killer treadmill workout on Pinterest. Summer bodies are made in the winter...
Whenever the oven decides to preheat I'll be making "lunch" for my husband...
He's gotta work tonight...
I'm on the hunt for a bible study workbook and a pretty journal...
I also need to start looking for some new flat sandals...
I am convinced that there are things that only my BFF understands about me...
My birthday roses are starting to die...
We got a new microwave and I didn't realize how bad our old one was until now...
The songs on Empire are so dang catchy. Drip drop drip drippidy drop...
You can keep your money. (I don't want it) If you're gonna throw it in my face...
Still not gonna download them though...
Thought about painting my nails tonight but I'll probably fall asleep reading Andy Cohen....

A Day in the Life of a Stay at Home Mom

You know how you have those super productive days where you get so much done? And then you have those days where you get a lot done but at the end of the day you can't remember what you did. And then there are the days where you have no idea what happened. Those days are kind of like a twenty-four hour blur.

Well, yesterday I decided to keep a journal of what we did. I wanted to see what we had done at the end of the day. Here is a random Thursday in my life. There were pretty pictures to accompany this post but my computer is still a hot mess, so....

Thursday, February 12, 2015

6:30 - Wake Up. Scrolled through IG & email. Shower, brush teeth, skincare regimen.
7:06 - Little Mike wakes up. Diaper change. I put on our clothes.
7:11 - Turn on Sav's lights.
7:14 - Sav is up. I'm still getting Little Mike dressed.
7:18 - Get Sav dressed. We're running behind schedule.
7:25 - Style Sav's hair.
7:34 - Go downstairs.
7:35 - Make breakfast and give allergy medicine to Sav.
7:36 - Play morning music.
7:54 - Bundle up and prepare to leave the house for school drop off.
8:02 - Brother called.
8:06 - Preschool drop off. I forgot her Valentine's Day swap book. Gotta go home, get it and bring it back.
8:16 - Prepare dinner in crock pot.
8:25 - Do makeup.
8:50 - Diaper change.
8:58 - Drop book off at school.
9:05 - Respond to husband's text. Head to MOPS meeting.
9:27 - Finally sitting at table. Little Mike cried at nursery drop off. MOPS breakfast begins.
9:40 - Console Little Mike at nursery.
9:45 - Eat breakfast. Meeting starts. Return Little Mike to nursery.
10:15 - Nursery pages me again. I keep him because he's so upset.
11:24 - MOPS is over. Head home to regroup. I need headache medicine.
11:30 - Diaper change.
11:33 - Check crock pot. Sweep kitchen. Clean countertops and table.
11:46 - Head to preschool for pickup.
11:55 - Got Sav. Headed to Dollar Tree for VDay card supplies.
12:26 - Done at Dollar Tree. Going to grab lunch.
12:30 - MJB's Real Love comes on the radio. I get my life real quick.
12:45 - Sit down to eat at CFA. I got the Asian salad.
1:11 - Made a wish. Sav goes to the potty before we get in the car. Next stop is Starbucks for gift cards.
1:15 - Sitting in Starbucks drive thru. Switched from radio to Brandy's Never Say Never album.
1:20 - Finished at Starbucks and headed to PX because SB did not have any VDay envelopes for their cards. Should've gotten some at Dollar Tree.
1:36 - Arrived at PX.
2:18 - Back in car going to grocery store.
2:42 - Finally headed home. :-)
2:46 - Home. Unloading everything and everybody.
2:54 - Diaper change. Outfit change for everyone except Sav.
3:06 - Uploaded pic for blog post.
3:21 - Blog post done. Heading outside to fly a kite.
3:44 - Decided to head to the playground for a bit.
4:06 - Starting the sides for dinner.
4:11 - Responded to a FB message from a friend.
4:21 - Started Valentine's Day cards. Husband gets home.
5:30 - Ate dinner.
6:15 - Went to gym for a quick workout.
7:00 - Headed home to tuck in babies.
7:13 - The kids are in bed. Time to shower.
7:35 - Called my Mom. Put on PJs. Separated Laundry.
8:00 - Started load of laundry. Folded towels and clothes.
8:23 - Scandal and HTGAWM w/ husband.
10:13 - Sleep
6:16 - Woke up before alarm...